A few weeks ago, I dropped out of a weekend teaching-retreat because the teacher wasn’t what I needed. She was telling students off, for not formulating their question very well and I had too much going on in my life to stand for it. I went... Read More...
The Buddha is said to have told off members of his sangha for not breaking enough rules (*). Why? Because it meant they weren’t taking enough risks. I think many women need really to take that advice to heart. I started the training to become... Read More...
Gender is very much in the news these days. Feminism is losing its negative connotation and the internet is making it possible to empathize with girls and women all over the world fighting for basic liberties. (*) I am a feminist and was raised one.... Read More...
It takes a while to get comfortable with the richness of allowing yourself to just be with your own mind. It’s a little like meeting an old friend for the first time in years. There may be some awkwardness in the beginning, not knowing who this... Read More...
H.P. Blavatsky was my first spiritual love. As a 19-year-old I drank in her Key to Theosophy (*) and loved the idea of finding a common core between all religions, science and philosophy. I thought that this had to be attempted, for the welfare of... Read More...
The great Tibetan Buddhist Monk and philosopher Matthieu Ricard was in Amsterdam yesterday to talk about his new book – the Dutch translation of the French ‘Plaidoyer pour l’altruisme’. It will be available in English this summer as... Read More...
Every once in a while I do an overview post of all the spiritual stuff I have put online in the past period. It turns out that the last time I did this was almost a year ago, so this post is long overdue. This post is also the basis for my... Read More...
What do you know, just when I have the energy to tell you all that I am too busy to blog – I post one thing after another. So this is my habitual end-of-year blogpost. This was a busy year for me. I bought a house and moved into it, I lost my grandmother, I started on the path towards becoming a mindfulness teacher, I went to Hamburg to see HH the Dalai Lama, I am signing up for finally finishing my bachelor religion studies and the main site I do business on has folded.
Are you keeping up? Probably not. I know I have a hard time keeping up myself, sometimes.  (In fact, I forgot all about publishing my first book: Essays on Karma)[/edit] Thankfully the business part of my life is going better than expected – and just in time for Christmas too. That gives me some room to breath and finish that bachelor degree before the mindfulness training starts I set my heart on. With a few clients added in, I will be able to manage just fine.
So – what about this blog? Well – here are my top spiritual blogposts of all time.
- 10 simple mindfulness exercises
- On how to stay celibate
- Best Buddhist Blogs
- Karma in the Bhagavad Gita
- My disillusionment with Jiddu Krishnamurti
- Shamanism, Buddhism, and Ayahuasca – hallucinogen and spirituality (guest post)
- Did Buddhism win the best Religion of the world award?
- Anatma, no Soul, Buddha Nature, Vedantins vs Buddhism
- Are humans meant to be vegetarian?
- The five stages of the soul transformation process: Michael Mirdad
Bodhicitta is the mind of enlightenment. It not merely the wish to help all sentient beings attain enlightenment, it is the firm decision to take every single one of them to that state.
This is obviously as inclusive as it gets. EVERYBODY is included in bodhicitta and the corresponding Bodhisattva vow. And the bodhisattva vow is taken by every practicing Mahayana Buddhist.
Buddhists are humans and therefore generally haven’t been able to integrate Bodhicitta in their lives, so the Tibetan Buddhist tradition advises starting with meditating on equanimity.
Equanimity is the start to Bodhicitta, and it doesn’t require any sort of faith, so it is a great practice for anybody who wants to face up to racism or prejudice in their own mind.
Meditating on equanimity starts with visualizing a friend, a stranger and an enemy. Observe the difference in how you feel about them. In my morning meditations, I often settle for visualizing someone who has recently hurt or offended me. If I can feel friendly towards them, I’m off to a good start of the day.
The aim of this practice is not indifference, but equal good will towards all three.
Racism has been much in the news lately. In the Netherlands we have been faced, again, with the consequences of the UN advice to change our pre-Christmas Sinterklaas-celebrations. The Dutch are used to feeling that they aren’t racist. This is an irrational feeling, as study after study shows that people of color or a non-default heritage have a harder time getting interviewed for jobs – let alone getting them.
I have also heard stories of office culture where calling people of Indonesian descent ‘peanut’ is accepted as normal. This is done without any sense that it might be derogatory. I hope, for an English language audience, that it is obvious that this sort of thing is not in fact innocent.
As I understand it, psychologically, racism centers on two things: prejudice and tribal thinking. Continue reading Bodhicitta and Racism – meditating on equanimity
I sometimes wonder what my life would have looked like if I had started meditating at 25, because that is roughly the age that I made my first attempt. At that point it was not too hard for me to follow the instructions in a meditation-booklet and so I... Read More...