“Good intentions aren’t enough. It’s not what we want, say, or think that makes things happen; it’s what we do.” Michael Josephson
I remember a friend who promised to visit me time and again – yet never made it to my door. There was always some reason not to make it. This was before mobile phones were everywhere, so the excuse ‘I can’t find it’ made some sense. Still, if she’d wanted to come, we could have figured something out. Needless to say: that wasn’t a friendship that lasted.
I’ve been fooled by good intentions more than once. I don’t mean my own good intentions, I mean other people’s. Whether it’s unkept promises or a friend that’s simply never on time. Whether it’s a sensitive person who never manages to visit that sick person, or never pays for a group birthday present. An organisation that shall remain nameless that has great ideals it doesn’t live up to also comes to mind.
We fall for charm, every time. Yes, me too. Research shows that the people who we think are great on a first date or interview are likely to be more selfish than the ones we thought were boring. The boring ones will generally have far more going for them long term.
Isn’t that sad? Makes you look at ‘Pride and Prejudice’ or ‘Bridget Jones’ Diary’ with new eyes.
Unfortunately our culture stresses the superficial way more than it used to. The follow through remains invisible: the donation for charity, the real helping hand. What’s visible is our tweets, our facebook shares, our words for the right cause.
Hat tip to @freeyourspirit for the quote.