The unsaid basics of meditation and life

What we all do when we start something, when we do something, when we try something, when we read something, when we respond to something… is bring ourselves into it. I was a bit baffled by some of the responses to my post about the unsaid things about meditation.

And what it was is this: when I wrote I got bored meditating there’s a whole lot I did NOT mean:

  • I did not mean boredom is bad
  • I did not mean I was bored meditating all the time
  • I did not mean I thought boredom was a problem

Boredom just was. For me meditation is about seeing what is, inside.

I’ve wondered for a while about how to write about this, and then I saw this video on TED (don’t we all love TED?)

What many of you brought into the conversation was judgement. Not so much judging me, as expectations on how I judge myself. That probably does say more about many of you than it does me, because here’s something I learned in my early 20s:

I have long had the strong suspicion that the capacity to be vulnerable is the same as to have real inner power.

And do read the whole article if you don’t get this post.

It’s a lesson Brené Brown has backed up with her own research.

For me boredom is part of that: it’s there. Not to be numbed. Not to be repressed. Not overlaid with visualisation meditation. It’s just there. Sometimes it’s not. Sometimes it is. The same with fear. And though I did not experience anger in my meditation, I would say the same thing about experiencing anger in meditation, or sadness.

I would say the same even outside meditation actually: boredom, fear, anger, sadness – they’re part of life. Not to be fixed. Not to be medicated (except perhaps in extreme circumstances). You don’t have to eat to overlay them. Not to be turned into certainties. They are just there. I’m not saying I always manage to avoid all those. I’m just saying that my basic attitude is that they’re part of life.

And the funny thing is: if you can accept that, if you can live that – anger, fear, boredom and sadness usually become less of an issue very quickly. Not as in a magic wand, but as in: the fight against all of these uncomfortable emotions takes energy, and that life energy will enrich life if it’s no longer channeled into fighting other aspects of life.

That isn’t to say you should just accept everything in life as is. It does mean that fighting isn’t always the answer. Walking away may well be. I’m making some pretty big changes in my life right now and knowing my emotions and accepting them is part of what makes me capable of those changes.

6 thoughts on “The unsaid basics of meditation and life”

  1. I do remember my father always saying to me that no emotion, no feeling, no reaction was ever ‘wrong’. It just was. Some might say no decision is ever wrong either – just a different path to take – although that is admittedly harder to stomach when an action appears to hurt either the ‘actor’ or others. But then again the possible argument is that we are simply doing what we are supposed to do. Judgement is a knee-jerk response in humans, I suspect because it feels safer…but I am all for cultivating the vulnerability of observation as opposed to judgement. Let the feelings come and wash through us, whatever they may be. E x

  2. Totally agree with you !!! If we let ourselves to feel whatever it is … we are really feeling.
    It’s not that important what we are feeling, what really matters is that we are feeling (honestly) and those experiences let us grow and learn . From there … everything is possible !!!
    Nice post. Thank you.

  3. Some ways to cope with depression are faintsg and prayer. Constant prayer. Depression is of Satan . GOD intended for us to be happy and filled with the Holy Spirit. Look at the word depression De- Something deep inside you ,Press- To keep you low and pressed downSion to shun you away from GOD.I believe it is the work of Satan and his followers.Stay in prayer and stay in constant fellowship with people of Christ. He will free you and use this experience as a testimony for others.Remember everything is done for a reason and GODS GLORY.And this too shall Pass. Stay encouraged and praise GOD even in the midst of your depression and the devil will flee. You have the victory.Because I now HAVE THE VICTORYThis is my testimony to the same

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