I’ve spent a lot of time on this blog analyzing the Law of Attraction, aka ‘The Secret’. One of the issues that keeps coming up for those who spend (in my opinion) too much time on this law, is how to translate the dream into reality. Or as one member of the LOA forum says (edited for grammar and spelling):
At first I am so eager to do a lot of things, e.g. going to work, drawing, sewing, reading, meeting friends… I am vibrant and almost dizzy from all these exciting ideas! Thinking about them makes me feel really good.
And then, when I want to start acting on them, it gets sticky. And slowly, or often not so slowly, these exciting things pile up and become “shoulds”: I should summarize all my inspiring Abe quotes I collected. I should start making some real plans about these business ideas. I should gout and buy the paint for this picture I want to paint. I should make something nice and creative from the beautiful scraps and images I collected.
And now I am feeling stressed. Overwhelmed. I feel the resistance in me. And the more I try to overcome it, the bigger it gets!
That’s what you get when you let dreams, not reality, rule your life. A theosophical teacher once said:
Great things in life are possible only to strong souls and it’s from the trivial events of daily life that strength is won. (L.W. Rogers)
I like that quote a lot, because for a dreamer like me, daily life is a lot harder than thinking about all that I could be, could do, could accomplish. I’m not saying that dreams don’t have their place in life, but I am saying that focussing on the dream too much isn’t going to work. The trivial events of daily life have their place to. In that reality it is a choice: either you draw OR you sew OR you meet your friends. In dreams we can have it all. In reality one has to make choices, set up priorities and live by them. It helps to get organized of course.
It helps to make the dream concrete perhaps. But it also helps to dream the dream only part time. Use that image board if you have to, to clearly put up what your priorities are. But then, put the board away and live your life. After all, it’s not in dreams but in reality that the life you live is shaped.
I like how it works for Oprah (apparently). She made a collage some years ago about how her ideal magazine would look. Then she went on with her day to day business. She didn’t spend her time dreaming that magazine together. She went on making her tv shows and working her but off. But ten years later she had her magazine. And it fitted her image board to a T.
All that can be summed up in how I answered this question on twitter:
Go one step at a time. Instead of focusing on the big dream, focus on the small things you will do today. priorities